One issue that I tend to argue with my parents a lot with, and I'd bet that many others do as well, is the amount of control and privacy I have over my room in our house. I understand that my parents bought and own the house. However, as a member of the family, isn't it fair that my room can be MY space that I can control? My mom often demands that I clean my room when she feels its messy, and feels free to stroll into my room and snoop around whenever she pleases. She'll even "clean up" for me sometimes, and then I can never find anything because she moves it all. We still call it "my room", but can I even call it that if I don't really own or control it?
Well, technically you have no deeds or pay property taxes or even rent, so it is not YOUR room. Nonetheless, the cultural standby is that the children of a homeowner can freely stay in one given room of the house, provided that a social contract be engaged wherein the homeowner (ie, the parent) has the right to enter if a good enough reason is presented, and the room-leaser (ie, you) has the right to some privacy.
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This is my life! So I tend to let my laundry pile up on my desk... and then that laundry usually ends up on the floor. My mother then demands that I clean it up before I can go out and do anything. However, I feel like she doesn't understand how much other stuff I have to do... college applications, homework, work, musical, and then maybe some sleep if I can find time. So therefore laundry is not even on my list of priorities. So I understand what you mean. Just let us decide how to run our own rooms!
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